Rose colored glasses

I've had a lot of "ponderings" this week. Unfortunately, I haven't had a bit of time to share them. But this one thought has stuck with me- perspective, as in how we see the world around us, is incredibly influential on mood.
I struggle a lot with being a cynic, seeing the glass half empty, etc. Negativity regarding my circumstances comes naturally. (It always has; this isn't a result of my most recent circumstances.) I am overcritical of myself, and that translates into being overcritical of my children, and having higher expectations of them then I should. Also of my dog...but that is for another blog!
I recently began reading "Raising your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. While I haven't had time to get past the first chapter :) that first chapter alone was so helpful and exciting! Evidently, my children are both spirited. I always knew Ewan was different, but this book helped me to see the spectrum of colors he brings into the world.
She talks about how we label our children, and much like food is labeled, it tells us exactly what is inside. So- grumpy, difficult, angry, disagreeable, and rude tell us what is inside our children. Sadly, the one negative label trumps all the goodness inside as well. She encourages us to see the flip side of each negative description: stubborn=tenacious, wild=energetic, nosy=curious, loud=zestful, etc. If you describe your child positively you begin to appreciate all those qualities that used to make you want to pull your hair out. This is the theory. While I believed she had a point, I have never bought into changing the world by the way you think.
SO...I gave it a shot. I have to admit, it really worked!! There are moments where I still lose my temper, or wish they both weren't screaming at each other in the backseat while I stand outside the car not wanting to get in.
But I have noticed more. I've noticed how Ewan is very perceptive and thoughtful, like when he said to me at the table, "do you want to be alone? Would you like me to leave?" or when I asked him to get me some water, he said "oh yes, I will Mommy" with a chuckle.
I've noticed how Allison does the absolutely most adorable things at the worst possible moments, but by ignoring the clock and enjoying her spunk and creativity, I get joy in return.
I am weary. I work hard to manage the behavior of two very spirited children. I am often ignored by them, the dog, and the cats. But I am blessed. They are more work, but they are more blessing. If I can just remember to let God help me put on my rose colored glasses and enjoy the gift He has given me by changing my perspective, I am given much.

"Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2